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It’s okay to say NO. - The world will manage to go on somehow if you don’t make that extra batch of cookies for the bake sale or help with your brother’s garden shed construction. I realized that I was taking on activities that were not realistic or healthy simply because I did not want to be perceived as lazy or unhelpful. Side note - it’s also okay to say “I can’t do THAT but I can do THIS instead.”
It’s okay to leave things for later. - You are not Martha Stewart. You are not Bob Vila. That’s okay and people don’t live like that in real life anyway. Your life will not be over if there are unsent emails or dishes in the sink. Your life will, however, grind to a screeching halt if you overdo it and have to spend a week on the couch. If you’re going to do that, make sure it’s for a damn good reason.
It’s nobody’s business what I do or don’t do. - Even if I love them, no one has a right to control my life. No one but me knows how I feel (physically or emotionally) and therefore no one has the right to judge the decisions I make. If I choose to not pursue a treatment because it’s not right for me, that’s MY business. If I choose to conserve my energy one day so I can get away with extending myself another day, that’s also MY business. Nosey commentary, invasive questions, and snark are not welcome and will be dealt with politely and accordingly.
Put your effort and energy where YOU want it, not where others think it should go. - I think that’s pretty self explanatory :) Effort and energy are finite resources for me, and I’m going to manage them in a way that makes sense for my life.
Pursue happiness and remove negativity. - The most difficult lesson here for me has been to see that much of the negativity in my life was coming from within. Yes, I’m in pain all day every day and it sucks balls. Yes, I sometimes miss out on things that I don’t want to miss out on because of that. That doesn’t mean I can never enjoy anything. The struggle for me is not in finding the right medical treatments, diet, exercise regimen, etc etc ad nauseam, it’s learning to turn away from all that and realize that there’s more to me than this illness. If science discovered the magic bullet a year from now, but I let my whole life become consumed by my reactions to my physical ailment, then what will I have left when it’s gone? Wherever the negativity is in your life, turn away from it and towards something that makes you happy, whatever that may be as long as it’s healthy.
Your mileage may vary, love and gentle hugs to all :)

All I can say is that, to create a game with the concept of, ‘appealing to the West,’ is not necessarily the same meaning as ‘copying the West.’ Some years ago, Japanese games were so popular in the West, in spite of not thinking of the Western market at all. Why? What were the creators then thinking of when creating the game? I suppose, they were just seeking the fun of the videogame, and as a result, it attracted the people in the West.

You don’t know anyone at the party, so you don’t want to go. You don’t like cottage cheese, so you haven’t eaten it in years. This is your choice, of course, but don’t kid yourself: it’s also the flinch.

Your personality is not set in stone. You may think a morning coffee is the most enjoyable thing in the world, but it’s really just a habit. Thirty days without it, and you would be fine. You think you have a soul mate, but in fact you could have had any number of spouses. You would have evolved differently, but been just as happy.

You can change what you want about yourself at any time. You see yourself as someone who can’t write or play an instrument, who gives in to temptation or makes bad decisions, but that’s really not you. It’s not ingrained. It’s not your personality. Your personality is something else, something deeper than just preferences, and these details on the surface, you can change anytime you like.

If it is useful to do so, you must abandon your identity and start again. Sometimes, it’s the only way.

Set fire to your old self. It’s not needed here. It’s too busy shopping, gossiping about others, and watching days go by and asking why you haven’t gotten as far as you’d like. This old self will die and be forgotten by all but family, and replaced by someone who makes a difference.

Your new self is not like that. Your new self is the Great Chicago Fire—overwhelming, overpowering, and destroying everything that isn’t necessary.

Today a psychologist said something to me. He said that the majority of people live within a box, and that’s their entire reality. All they see is the inside of the box, and they’re ‘asleep’ to anything else. People that have suffered from some form of mental illness are ‘awake’ because they’ve seen reality outside the box. He said no matter how hard people try to put the person back into the box, they will never fit, because they’ve seen something beyond it all.

The best way to dehumanize someone while claiming you’re not is to believe you are just the same. You erase their experiences and perspective, their struggles and obstacles, their unique way of having to deal with those things in a world that also erases them. With the words, ‘but humans are humans’ or the bullshit dramatics of ‘we all bleed red’ normal people can simply pretend that if we all did things the way they did, then everything would work out okay. But, yes, we all bleed red but you don’t treat a paper-cut the same way you treat a gash, you don’t treat an infected wound the same way you treat one that isn’t, you don’t treat a wound to the leg the same way you treat a wound to the gut. You are not acknowledging someone’s personhood when you ignore the very things that make their lives different than yours, and when you refuse to understand that their circumstances have given them their own perspective that is just as valid as yours. More valid in fact – their perspective about their experiences that you haven’t been through is far more valid than anything you could ever think about it.

Sometimes you meet a person and you just click—you’re comfortable with them, like you’ve known them your whole life, and you don’t have to pretend to be anyone or anything.

One thing you who had secure or happy childhoods should understand about those of us who did not. We who control our feelings, who avoid conflicts at all costs, or seem to seek them. Who are hypersensitive, self-critical, compulsive, workaholic, and above all survivors. We are not that way from perversity, and we cannot just relax and let it go. We’ve learned to cope in ways you never had to.

Do not look for a sanctuary in anyone except your self.

Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.

What does it say about the Republican Party that despite our being the richest country on the planet, all they can worry about is how expensive it is to take care of our elderly, our sick and our less fortunate? What kind of statement are they making when they focus almost exclusively on how much richer we could all be if we just spend a little less money on the sick and the elderly? There are more billionaires in America than in the next 10 richest countries combined. We are actually millionaires when it comes to the number of millionaires with almost 5 million Americans having that distinction – more than the next 10 countries combined. But the way Ryan describes it you would never know that the tax burden for American workers is one of the lowest on Earth… or that our defense budget is ten times greater than the next closest country.

Write hard and clear about what hurts.