can anyone throw a few bucks my way? I gotta figure out how to work my paypal, but it would be much appreciated if you could.
Signal boost for a cool person in need.
hey to anyone asking i don’t know how to do a link, but my paypal email is ninoshotnessie@hotmail.com
Guys, Nnyno is my baby girl. If you could help or signal boost, that would be amazing.
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Thanks :) If you can’t buy, I understand. They’re expensive :-/ But signal boost please :)
Signal boosting! C: Best of luck to ya.
wish i was a headlight: Abuse from a figure head in the trans and queer radical community
TW RAPE, SEXUAL ASSAULT, RAPE APOLOGIZISM, VICTIM ERASURE, TRANS MISOGYNY
I was in a relationship with Asher Bauer and it was not a very good relationship. He and I never really got along but there is one thing that I’m going to say and that is that I suffered abuse (I was the constant victim of him bullying me and when I would say ‘stop it’ he would not stop which usually ended up with me having to physically intimidate him in order to get him to back down. I was also raped (not by him) and days after it happened I was at a coffee shop and he sexually assaulted me in public - came up from behind and groped me resulting in me nearly tearing his face off I was also constantly devalued as a bottom in a very genital essentialist way and consistently asked him not to think of me in that way and was ignored) from him while in our relationship together. I haven’t really felt like I could say anything and now I feel that I really need to because I’m sick of this.
HEY GUYS
REMEMBER WHEN WE SAID WE’D LISTEN TO CAMAB EXPERIENCES OF SEXUAL ASSAULT AS MUCH AS WE DO CAFAB ONES? AND THE EXPERIENCES OF PEOPLE OF COLOR?
EVEN WHEN THEY SAY BAD THINGS ABOUT PEOPLE WE LIKE/RESPECT/LISTEN TO/WORK WITH/whatev?
AND DO WHAT WE CAN TO LISTEN, HEAR, THOSE EXPERIENCES?
i believe that one of the main people speaking out re Ira Gray made us PROMISE TO DO SO?
yeah we didn’t do that.
someone please tell me why i have seen not a peep re this on my dash please. I go on tumblr prob less than five times a day most days, and i knew the ins and outs of the Ira Gray accusations. despite being more involved in both the BDSM and the trans* subcultures at the time this post was originally made than i am on tumblr these days, i had never heard of this.
because we automatically give CAFAB and white experiences (experiences, period, not just of sexual assault) way more attention, signal boosting, and credence in the trans community than we do CAMAB experiences.
and that is some serious bullshit.
ADDITIONAL NOTE: OP is non-binary, don’t use pronouns unless you know the preferred ones for this person!
wow. apologies for my silence on this. i didn’t see this until d-l-s contacted me about it. what do you want from us? you have my support. i’ve never heard of asher bauer before, but he sounds like a douche. i’m really sorry you went through that. <3
Asher Bauer is the mind behind Not Your Mom’s Trans 101.
Signal boosting the fuck out of this.
forever reblog
TW: Violence/Murder of Trans* Woman.
Brandi Martell. RIP.
Another day, another Black transwoman killed somewhere. and as a Daily Kos post noted, nobody gave a damn. Correction, nobady gave a damn except her friends, family and other Black transwomen and our allies around the country who are saying to themselves there but for the grace of God go I.
Hell, Paige Clay still hasn’t been buried yet in Chicago, and we’re talking about the murder of yet another one of our African descended transsisters. We now have to add 37 year old Brandy Martell’s name to the depressingly lengthening list of people whose names we’ll be lighting candles for and reading at the 2012 TDOR.
Martell according to a news report was shot to death April 29 in downtown Oakland at Franklin and 13th Street just a block from city hall while sitting behind the steering wheel of her car.
According to what a witness told Laura Anthony of ABC7, Martell was sitting behind the wheel of her car around 5:15 AM PDT Sunday when one or two men walked up and began a conversation that appeared cordial on the surface but a few moments later one of the men became angry and fired into the car at Martell.
Until late last year, Martell worked as an outreach worker at the Tri-City Health Center in Fremont, CA which serves the local trans community.
According to a note posted on my FB page courtesy of Tanajsha Thomas the homegoing service will take place on Wednesday May 9 at 11 AM PDT at C.P. Bannon Mortuary . Address for those of you in the Bay Area wishing to attend is 6800 International Blvd,. Oakland, CA. 94621.
“When you don’t provide a space in society for people who you think are the other or different, especially transgender women, especially transgender women of color, when you don’t provide spaces for them to be in a safe environment or a safe space, whether it’s socializing or services, this is what happens,” said Martell’s friend Tiffany Woods to ABC7.
Martell’s friends also suspect like we all do this murder is an anti-trans hate crime. But until the wastes of DNA who killed her are apprehended and brought to justice, all we have is suspicion, another famiily having to make burial arrangements for a loved one, and her friends and colleagues mourning the passing of someone who died way too fracking soon.we need to be doing more for our sisters. like forreal.
TW: Violence/Murder of Trans* Woman.
Brandi Martell. RIP.
Another day, another Black transwoman killed somewhere. and as a Daily Kos post noted, nobody gave a damn. Correction, nobady gave a damn except her friends, family and other Black transwomen and our allies around the country who are saying to themselves there but for the grace of God go I.
Hell, Paige Clay still hasn’t been buried yet in Chicago, and we’re talking about the murder of yet another one of our African descended transsisters. We now have to add 37 year old Brandy Martell’s name to the depressingly lengthening list of people whose names we’ll be lighting candles for and reading at the 2012 TDOR.
Martell according to a news report was shot to death April 29 in downtown Oakland at Franklin and 13th Street just a block from city hall while sitting behind the steering wheel of her car.
According to what a witness told Laura Anthony of ABC7, Martell was sitting behind the wheel of her car around 5:15 AM PDT Sunday when one or two men walked up and began a conversation that appeared cordial on the surface but a few moments later one of the men became angry and fired into the car at Martell.
Until late last year, Martell worked as an outreach worker at the Tri-City Health Center in Fremont, CA which serves the local trans community.
According to a note posted on my FB page courtesy of Tanajsha Thomas the homegoing service will take place on Wednesday May 9 at 11 AM PDT at C.P. Bannon Mortuary . Address for those of you in the Bay Area wishing to attend is 6800 International Blvd,. Oakland, CA. 94621.
“When you don’t provide a space in society for people who you think are the other or different, especially transgender women, especially transgender women of color, when you don’t provide spaces for them to be in a safe environment or a safe space, whether it’s socializing or services, this is what happens,” said Martell’s friend Tiffany Woods to ABC7.
Martell’s friends also suspect like we all do this murder is an anti-trans hate crime. But until the wastes of DNA who killed her are apprehended and brought to justice, all we have is suspicion, another famiily having to make burial arrangements for a loved one, and her friends and colleagues mourning the passing of someone who died way too fracking soon.we need to be doing more for our sisters. like forreal.
I just received the GoGirl as a donation to review from my lovely friend Alix - and I must say that I love the product, but really dislike the fact that all of the company’s media outlets are ONLY geared towards cisgender women. If you visit their website (located here), everything is pink and purple and just seems overly gendering and stereotypical in regards to gender norms.
It really is all in the product’s name - GoGirl - so I understand directing attention to cisgender women, but by doing so they are completely neglecting transgender* folks.
Honestly, I personally do not care that the product is called the GoGirl or that I currently own a lavender one. Being a genderqueer guy, I am comfortable with all that. In fact, when I peed standing up for the first time I shouted, “You go, girl!” in my head. But that is just me and my own experience.
For trans* guys like myself, visiting the website can be off-putting, awkward, and unwelcome. It can even be dysphoric and triggering for some. The GoGirl company should be inclusive to ALL of their customers (and potential customers).
If you agree, please let them know what you think.
You can visit their facebook page here (where I have already commented on this issue):http://www.facebook.com/GoGirl
You can tweet them here: https://twitter.com/#!/Go_Girls
You can view their youtube here:http://www.youtube.com/user/GoGirlTeam
Or you can leave a message to Sarah (the owner) here:
1-877-447-5007 (toll free)
If possible, I would like the messages to please be civil and to the point. It would be great if this company became more inclusive, because let’s face it - the GoGirl is one of the cheapest, most effective and useful STP devices on the market. It would be great to see GoGirl making an effort to be more inclusive! If this happens, I would love to help support and promote them some day!!
Please help spread the word about this, folks!
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Trans* Success would like to ask any interested members to sign a petition to reinstate Jenna Talackova as a Miss Universe Canada Contestant. She was disqualified due to her trans status though there is no rule anywhere in the books saying that she had to be born a cisgender female in order to compete. Sometimes people have to fight for what they want and our community is well aware of this fact. Jenna refuses to go down without a fight. Be the difference and help Jenna create her own success story.
Not aromantic-related, but important!
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I understand if you can’t donate, but please signal boost for me.
Thank you so much to the seven of you who have donated <3
Please remember that every little bit counts. A dollar alone isn’t much, it’s true, but a dollar from each person out of a large group can add up to quite a bit! Thank you :)
Dear trans people.
Quit putting an asterisk next to trans. I can’t help but read it as “transfarts” because it looks like a butthole just being there on its own next to the word.
Cool, thanks.
-Albert.Are you a trans* person?
If not, why do you feel okay policing the language we choose to use?
To the best of my knowledge the asterisk makes trans* more inclusive of non binaries than trans does.
Being fairly binary I use trans for myself but trans* usually to refer to the broader community.
“Are you a trans* person? If not, why do you feel okay policing the language we choose to use?”
^Implying that it’s fine if I’m trans, but not okay if I’m not?It doesn’t matter whether or not I’m trans, I’ll say what I like. I wasn’t “policing your language”, I was making a joke about something that annoys me slightly.
The asterisk doesn’t magically make the word more inclusive either. It’s not a magic doorway that invites all people of a non-binary gender identity into the swingin’ trans party. It’s a symbol that looks like a butthole when it’s only on one side of a word.
If you are trans* you have a stake in this and your opinion is valid. If you are not you can kindly shut the fuck up about it. I wasn’t implying anything, I was outright saying it.
You can say whatever you please, as can I. You know what annoys me slightly. Cissexist people who insist on trans* people living their lives in a manner that pleases cis people. OUR LIVES AND THE LANGUAGE WE USE TO DESCRIBE OURSELVES IS NOT FOR YOU TO DECIDE. Do me a favor and don’t make jokes that are even tangentially related to trans* issues.
How’s your familiarity with boolean search terms? The asterisk returns all variations on what comes before the asterisk. That means trans* makes sense for this application because it returns all variations on trans.
So next time you think of witty repartee having to do with trans* issues, make sure you know what the fuck you’re talking about.
^^^
“Oh, it’s okay for me to be a complete rudeass, but you can’t say anything about it, even if you’re a part of the group who’s language I’m policing”
Like hell you weren’t policing. Telling someone not to say something is INDEED language policing.
Ikanii, shut up. Shut up you giant, greasy bag of cissexist horse crap.
Trans* folks don’t have to do what you want.
*Smacks with a newspaper* BAD CIS ASSHOLE, BAD *Smacks again*
(Source: iragray)
“I’m sorry, I just can’t get your pronouns right!” Yes, you can. You just won’t.
“It happens all the time. Mostly with cis people, but with some trans people too. Someone gets a pronoun wrong. Sometimes it’s a binary pronoun (that is, he or she) and sometimes it’s a non-binary pronoun, like they, zie, or ey. And guess what? If you get a pronoun wrong, even if it was an honest mistake, it is your fault. It is a big deal. It is an example of cissexism. It is an example of linguistic violence. In fact, it is an example of your cissexism. Because you’re cissexist. The first step, dude, is admitting that you have a problem, and just like admitting that you’re an addict, it is hard to do. And just like admitting that you’re an addict, it is brave. And indispensable! Or you’ll hit your rock bottom, and that trans person you keep mispronouning? You will make them cry, or you trigger a panic attack for them, or the worst case scenario will happen, and you will lose them. I hope you value them enough to want these things not to happen.”
I’ve been struggling so hard with people around me misgendering folks. URGH.
I’ve found that when I mix up someone’s pronouns, it’s because I don’t really see hir as the gender that ze is. I slip up and use the wrong pronoun because I’m misgendering hir. In order to stop the slip-ups, I have to pause and say hold the fuck up how dare you misgender that person and decide that they aren’t “really” this gender or that?! And I have to give myself a stern talking-to and reminder that I have absolutely no authority to decide what someone else’s gender is, and accept that hir gender is what ze says it is regardless of what I happen to think, and then the pronouns clear up.
^This
A bit of a helpful tip: When you don’t know someone’s pronouns, always check their Tumblr page. And if they’re not listed “They”, “Them”, and their name/user name is usually sufficient. That’s what I do, at least. c:
It’s not that hard to do, and really helps make folks happier and more relaxed around you.
Cricket recommends…
A Transgender Vagina Talks Back
an amazing YouTube videoThis is one of the coolest YouTube videos I’ve ever come across – I don’t know who this guy is, but…
If they had awards for the most badass vagina, I believe I know who would win the first one. Just sayin’.
Count Me In!
Do you feel invisible?
You may think that you’ve come out, and you see yourself as a proud member of the LGBT community. But if you’ve come out as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or queer to your friends, family and coworkers, you’re still hidden. Why? Because without the data that identifies the LGBT community, LGBT people are invisible in the eyes of our government. Completely invisible. And that’s why we need to Queer the Census!
We’ve been working to make sure that we’re ALL counted by urging the Census Bureau and federal agencies to count us. We won the first step of this battle when the Census counted same-sex couples in its 2010 survey, but that’s just a beginning.
We know the LGBT community is more than just same-sex couples.
There are still no questions that ask INDIVIDUALS if they’re lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender on the 2020 census or the hundreds of smaller, yearly surveys from the federal government.
Being identified and counted isn’t just a numbers game. It’s not just about faceless chunks of data, either. It’s about people.
How can our cities and communities provide the vital services we need for our health, safety, and families if we don’t even know how many LGBT people there are in our country? It’s the results of hundreds of smaller federal surveys along with the Census that set national and state funding and policy priorities. Having a real count of how many Americans identify as LGBT will really strengthen our fight for full equality.
The links from my presentation thing, as requested by Joe.
[tw: cissexism, misgendering, slurs]
- Trans etiquette 101
- Not your mom’s trans 101
- Cis privilege checklist
- Binary gender privilege checklist
- Media depictions of trans people
- Book list
- Gender neutral relational terms
- About purportedly gendered body parts
- Why misgendering is bad
- Pronouns guide
- Singular gender neutral pronouns
- Trans directory
